Wednesday, February 16, 2011

A word of warning

Take heedThose of you who are friends of mine on Facebook know that it’s been a bad week so far (and it’s only Wednesday...good times!), and some of you know details. I had a very upsetting conversation today with someone I’m very close to, and they hung up on me. I think it will blow over, but let me just say that I will not compromise my principles, and I refuse to be manipulated.

In a subsequent conversation with someone else, it was brought to my attention that a family member has been telling my Mom certain things that they read about me online. I don’t know if they’re reading Facebook updates (I have my privacy settings quite restricted, but just in case, they are now blocked) or reading what I write here. I can’t block them from here, but perhaps that means they’ll read this, and I would welcome that. In fact, here’s a little message.

I would ask what purpose they hope to serve in telling tales about me to my Mom, or telling her things that I’ve said on here. My Mom doesn’t have a computer, and the things that I write here aren’t meant to be shared with her. What do you hope to accomplish in telling her things that you know will upset her? Why the fuck would you think it is in any way acceptable to upset an elderly woman who is still emotionally raw over the loss of her husband of 60+ years? What kind of an idiotic asshole are you? Really. I’d like to know.

I don’t care if you disagree with my religious and political views. In fact, I’m glad that of that. It will be a cold day in hell that we agree on anything like that, and that’s cool with me. But be warned: you are hurting my Mom by telling her what you are telling her, and that is simply unacceptable to me. If you’ve got a problem with me, you talk to ME. Have the balls to look me in the eye and tell me what you think of me, and I will gladly reciprocate. Gladly. Believe me. But if you think it’s amusing to tell an emotionally fragile widow things that will upset her and potentially cause a rift between her and her youngest daughter, you are a real prick, and I want nothing to do with you.



  1. Shane told me this evening what is going on. Funny, since I had almost invited you out this afternoon to join us at dinner.

    I'm sorry to hear about your double whammies for this week. Let me know if there is anything I can do.

  2. Tell the tattletale bitch to get a life already. She sounds stalkerish.

  3. I think people who can't be upfront with how they feel in regards to someone, have a lot more hiding in their own closet. It's childish as all get out to go around behind someone's back like a tattletale. Who ever it is, I hope they grow a pair. (Hugs)Indigo

  4. Because it could potentially be self-incriminating, I won't share my suggestion here...

    The internet has done a lot of good, but it also gives cowards a place to cherry pick and try to find stones to lob at stronger people. What you describe chaps my bottom because I know that this person would never try to say these things in person ...

  5. Dear Beth. I don't go anywhere near facebook or twitter so don't know what has been going on. All I can say is I am so sorry this is happening. I hope that whoever is stalking it would seem...just gets lost...
    thinking of you and sending waves of love
    Sybil x

  6. Hi Beth,
    Sorry you had to go through this. To whoever is causing this problem: Why don't you just buzz off?

  7. It's the same old fear and hate tactics that Conservative assholes have been using for years to try to silence our voices. Typical, cowardly behavior.
    I am sorry that both you and your mom have to go through this. Unfortunately, I doubt if your tormentors have enough empathy to understand the consequences of their hateful remarks to your mom. Nor do they care. They only care about hurting you and making you feel as awful as they do.
    I feel sorry for them. They worship Jesus, but don't have the slightest idea how Jesus would actually want them to behave. They have replaced all the love and acceptance that Jesus preached and replaced it with hate and venom. I feel sorry for them.For all the pain they cause, they will never know the love and support that you do. We are all behind you. And if we can help at all, you know we will. your tormentors don't have the compassion or trust to actually feel those kins of emotions for others. So they'll always be alone. Hence their continual bullying of those that are happier than they are.
    All my best to you and your mom.

  8. Oh, Beth...drama is so hard to deal with, especially when it involves. This person doesn't know another way to hurt you so she hurts the person you love. Cowardly, if you ask me, they don't have the cajones to say it to you in person!

  9. Another notch in the disappointment department. Sigh.

  10. How could that person not be perceived as having sinister motives & tactics? Do helpful, caring, benevolent folks do this? No. It seems almost like unethical human experimentation.

    Let's see what happens to Beth's relationship with her mother if I tell her mother THIS ( rubbing hands together).
    That is disgusting. ~Mary

  11. As my hubby said, this cowardly behavior manifests often in fearful conservatives here in the states. Instead of actually talking to you and settling a disagreement, they turn to backdoor fear mongering. I'm sure it hurts you more that at some point you thought of them as friends you could trust. I know it is of little consolation, but we're with you.


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