Friday, February 20, 2009

Sleaze Parade


Ken is working a couple of long night shifts this weekend, so I'm left to my own devices. I'm sure I can scare up some trouble.

And for all you wise-asses out there, I am not the sleaze on parade, and I'm not talking about scaring up that kind of trouble! The picture has nothing to do with Ken working nights, so stop thinking that. It's from the website of Ashley Madison. Have you heard about this? It's a dating service, but not your average bear. It's a service for people who want to have an affair. In fact, their slogan is "Life is short. Have an affair™," and they guarantee that if you use their service, you'll have an affair to remember or they'll give you your money back! Wow, what a deal!

Yuck. That just seems really sordid to me, and sort of cold and calculating. I'm not going to be overly judgemental, because in a previous life, I was no angel, and neither was my ex. But it seems to me that affairs are things that you sort of fall into...there may be weakness and dishonesty involved, but I think most people don't set out to purposefully have an affair.

In reading some of the testimonials, most people talk about being stuck in a loveless marriage and trying to fulfill their needs in other ways. That's a convenient excuse, but it's still just an excuse. Have the balls to stand up and say this isn't working, then do something to solve the problem, or cut bait and be done with it. I suppose some people get off on the illicit nature of sneaking around, but that takes way too much energy, and sooner or later you'll probably get caught. (Or maybe you'll feel guilty enough that you'll confess. I honestly had no idea that anything had gone on, but after I asked for a divorce and my ex moved out, he called me up and told me that he believed God was punishing him because he cheated on me...a month after we got married, when he was in Officer's Training School and I was staying with my parents. How charming!)

Why not just end whatever unhappy relationship you're in and then move on to one that you'll find more fulfilling? Everyone makes stupid mistakes, but hopefully they're a part of foolish youth. I know that I would rather cut my own foot off than hurt and betray Ken in that way. I really don't get the thought process behind someone using a service like this, although it seems that they're using it quite a bit.

With Ken working nights, I suppose I'll mess around a bit tonight. I think I'll burn a CD, I'll read the latest issue of Time, I'll play with the cat (although I suspect he's actually playing with me), and if I'm feeling really crazy, I think I'll watch "Road House." Ahhh, what a Siren I am!

20 comments:

  1. Howard Stern (ok, I admit it, I am a big fan) has had Ashley Madison as one of his advertisers for quite a while. I don't get it, either. Like you, I always thought an affair just "happened" without a person setting out to make it so in such a purposeful way. Different strokes, I guess....

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  2. Seriously, a site for affairs!?!? WHAT are people thinking? I love my husband way to much to ever consider such an act.

    However, having worked in a hotel, I KNOW this happens a lot. I had a regular guest who came in with different women and even offered to have an affair with me! WHAT! After flatly refusing his "offer" he told how good he was and how unappreciated he was by his wife. Yeah, cus she knows your a sleeze and keeps you around to help pay for the house?!?

    Sorry, I could ramble on about my hotel experiences and cheaters. It would be a blog entry on it's own. LOL

    Monica

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  3. PS, I'm no angel either in my past. But, a calculate type affair seems gross - almost like calling in a hooker, don't you think?

    Monica

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  4. Got my issue of Time. It's not great this week, but it doesn't completely suck.

    As for affairs, I'm not a cheater, and if I'm in a relationship where things are fading, I'll definitely talk to my partner first to see what's going on.

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  5. Considering my wife left me 4 days ago, I guess I could use the service and it wouldn't be an affair....therefore not sleazy!

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  6. All of that would just take entirely too much energy! Besides I'm like you I love my hubby too much to hurt him.

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  7. I just thought how funny it would be if a man or woman was looking for an affair and then ended up meeting with their own spouse! Meaning they both would have to face the fact that they were ready to cheat.

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  8. Where do I begin? So much to say...why can't men, and I guess women, too, be brave and honest and end the relationship if they're not happy? Getting their cake and eating it too, is just to disgusting for my sense of integrity. Good entry, Beth!

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  9. OMIG...I have used the online dating site in the past but a site for affairs! Oh my.....so stupid in my personal opinion. Well,everyone will think of something to make money as there is a fee attached to everything these days.

    Hugs,Rose

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  10. I've heard of this before, but really, a site to arrange one night stands and affairs? Isn't that what Craigslist is for? ;)

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  11. There is another site called second life, there was a radio programme about this whereby people meet online set up home together, build a community etc, the only trouble is that several couples have taken this from the site left partners to carry on this affair in real time...crazy.

    Yasmin

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  12. By the way, I'm in need of a REAL cat, is Sheeba busy? LOL
    Love,
    Jamie

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  13. Sheeba reported that you were not to Sleazy tonight, and that he was definitely playing with you (and himself, but only twice).

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  14. I found this funny......Have you heard about Sugardaddy.com? Much more appealling! LOL

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  15. I guess I should stop being amazed by things we find on line but I have to admit I was amazed. I totally agree with you that you should figure out what is wrong and fix it or have the balls to move on. Linda

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  16. Hi Beth,
    A site dedicated to cheating? Sounds suspiciously like a publicity stunt. Seriously, if someone wanted to cheat, why would they use a website designed just for cheating? Sounds kind of dumb.
    Best,
    Marty

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  17. A site for cheating? I'm betting it's more like another high class escort service. In any case if your at the point of cheating on whomever your with, I'm betting you should at the very least consider separating. Me? I don't share, so I don't believe I could ever work things out with a cheater and I would expect the same of him. As I said to someone else how does depravity help any situation. (Hugs)Indigo

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  18. RoadHouse. haha...."I thought you'd be bigger."

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  19. I really think that is disgusting, but I can't say I'm surprised there is such a service out there. I agree that if one person is happy s/he should end the relationship before starting another.

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  20. I have to say, and I think you know I am not a prude...not even close BUT the Ashley Madison site really offends me. I think it is totally wrong.

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